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So tonight we were watching Cars. It's a movie that my son got for Christmas. As children often tend to do, he would run in front of the tv, into grandmas view. As hers really is the only one that's affected, really. I don't care if he runs in front of my view, but if he stood there for a while, it probably would bother me. I can't even go on.

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Hurt feelings and The great misunderstanding

So, my MIL is not very assertive or informative on what she's thinking or feeling. So it's a little frustrating for me when something is going on with her emotionally, and I can't figure out what's bothering her. She helps my husband and I take care of our 3 children. Well, this evening, I took the 2 older kids and gave them a bath and left my baby in her charge. After the bath, the kids were playing mostly upstairs and then sometimes they would go downstairs. It didn't bother me much that they were going up and down because I felt that since my mil was present, there was someone keeping an eye on them. Now, I realize that there are times when my kids need constant supervision, but to me, this wasn't one of those times. MIL was reading the paper the last time I checked and so I didn't think having the kids around her would be such a HUGE deal. Well, the baby cried a couple of times. He mostly sqwaked and MIL took care of it, shusshing him and pacifying him. Well, on the last time I hollered to her that I was on my way down, and she didn't hear me, because she'd gotten up to go to the other room to make a bottle. I yelled to her again to make sure she heard and she said what do you want, I'm busy. Whoa, that totally took me off guard because I really just thought she was reading the paper. Oh by the way, by this time the kids had come back upstairs so I had them come down with me, while I got the baby. Anyway, I went to go talk to her about what was going on and she told me that the kids would wake the baby-they were playing loudly I guess, running and that sort of thing-and so understandably she was really frustrated. But here's where assertiveness and informative come in. I had NO IDEA what was happening while the kids were downstairs. Like I didn't know that they were being noisy or whatever and waking the baby. They were just being themselves. Then my daughter was being "helpful" and loaded a dish into the dishwasher where there were clean dishes. MIL yelled at her and in my opinion was a little aggessive. I had to explain to MIL that she's just 2 1/2 and only trying to help. She doesn't know if the dishes are clean or dirty. I sometimes feel like the roles are reversed around here. It feels to me that I'm more laid back about my kids; kind of like the way a grandma would be. But that Grandma is the one who gets all worked up over what they do. I don't know. I had a friend tell me once that the things that bother me about her are my issues, and I've since tried to be peaceful realizing that my friend is right and that I am the one with the problem. But if you don't verbalize/vocalize your feelings or opinions am I still the one with the problem? Later~E